Blue Star Families knows that there are so many awesome military dads out there, and often male military spouses don’t get the spotlight. We want the whole world to know about them! We interviewed two Blue Star Families members about their experience as military spouses and dads, and you might find a few of their answers surprising.


Happy Father’s Day to all of our dads serving in uniform and those serving beside their spouses on the homefront!


Name: Zack Dyer

Current Duty Station: Fort Leonard Wood, MO

Branch: US Army

What’s your favorite thing about military life?  

I think that one of the most unique things about military life is the inherent camaraderie that exists between us all. The nice thing about military families is that everyone understands just how unpredictable and hectic times can get. Consequently, most people will go out of their way to help each other, whether it’s welcoming someone to the unit or neighborhood, watching each other’s kids, or being there when someone needs an extra hand. That kind of camaraderie and cohesiveness is hard to come by and is such an important part of military life.


Tell us one unique thing about yourself.

I never imagined myself becoming a stay-at-home dad. Having been one for almost two years now, I wouldn’t trade this experience for anything. I know that’s not unique in and of itself, but when I think about how many friends I have that missed this stage in their children’s lives because of deployments, I feel unique and extremely lucky.


What is your favorite thing about your current duty station?

My wife, Katie, is an Army engineer, which I was also. Fort Leonard Wood is the home of the Engineers, so we have a lot of our friends pass through here regularly. It’s a relatively small installation so you get to know everyone here, which is nice, but that chance to catch up with old friends is priceless.


How did you and your spouse meet?

My wife and I met in 2013 while we were both stationed in Alaska. We were in the same battalion for about half a year before we started dating. Our first date was to the gun range. She’s a much better shot with a pistol than I am.


What would you like to tell other male military spouses?  

What I would tell any military spouse is don’t be afraid to get involved. Find something about military life that you enjoy and just go for it; there really is something for everyone. Build ties within your community and work to understand what your spouse does while they’re in uniform.


What’s your favorite Blue Star Families program?  

I only recently became familiar with Blue Star Families, but what I appreciate most is that there are resources for all facets of military life. In particular, the community of individuals and families involved. At the end of the day, it’s people helping people and that’s always a good thing.


Name: George Guthrie

Current Duty Station: Edwards Air Force Base, CA

Branch: US Air Force

What’s your biggest challenge being a male military spouse?

I would say it is a much smaller community.  I think there are some expectations that a male must also work.  I think it is a baby boomer or Gen X expectation, and I think Millennials will change that perception and it will be more acceptable to have a male spouse take time off to raise a family.


Tell us one unique thing about yourself. 

I was adopted at birth so adoption was important for us to start our family.


What do you wish people knew about male military spouses?  

We are not that different from female military spouses.  I think being a male military spouse requires someone who is willing to take on more household chores and family rearing than a non-military spouse.  Marriage is a partnership and it should be that way.  I don’t think people understand the pressures of having your spouse deploy for long periods of time.  That is not exclusive with male military spouses.  It makes a marriage stronger and builds a lot of trust, but it can be very difficult when you’re in the thick of it.


What’s your favorite thing about your current duty station?

Moving to California has given me a lot of opportunities with my employer.  California can be a culture shock for a native Texan but I have assimilated pretty well.


What surprised you about military life?

I was surprised how accepting the military families were upon the repeal of DADT [Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell].


What would you like to tell other male military spouses?

It is a great group to be in.  Only a few people in this country know the challenges we face, and there is always someone to speak to if you wish who either is currently in the same situation or has been in the past.